"I feel like the more I read up on these the more confused I get."
Cutting down the springs makes them firmer, not softer. Weight of oil is what the manufacturer recommends and likely the same type. The numbers on various manufacturers bottles have only a vague resemblance to viscosity. There are some tables on the internet which you can use as a cross reference.
Try this:
transmoto.com.au
Setup may be a problem unless they changed the shim stack for DL's. Lots of light shims was 'make magic happen' for me but paid a professional suspension tuner and my riding conditions are likely different from yours. I was after stability at speed on very washboarded roads.
Cutting down the springs makes them firmer, not softer. Weight of oil is what the manufacturer recommends and likely the same type. The numbers on various manufacturers bottles have only a vague resemblance to viscosity. There are some tables on the internet which you can use as a cross reference.
Try this:

Comparative Oil Weights Table - Transmoto
Buying the right oil for your bike is very important as it can effect performance and the amount of wear-and-tear your bike receives.

Setup may be a problem unless they changed the shim stack for DL's. Lots of light shims was 'make magic happen' for me but paid a professional suspension tuner and my riding conditions are likely different from yours. I was after stability at speed on very washboarded roads.