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Helenís Last Rides - Part One

My mother, Helen Falkner, died May 28 2007. She was very old; before death, her decline was total, so death took nothing from her, but was instead the final relief from a dull and joyless existence. Please do not offer condolences, but instead share with me some voyages, Helenís Last Rides.

It was my motherís wish to be cremated. Cremated remains are a few pounds of gritty light brown ash, very dense and of course utterly sterile. Chemically, they are probably mostly impure calcium carbonate, CaCO3. My motherís remains were delivered in a tough plastic bag, closed with a one-way nylon cinch. The bag is in a cardboard box and the box is in a sombre blue nylon bag with a drawstring. The bag was made in China, and thatís a shame. For the money the mortuary made, they could at least have supplied a bag made in Canada. I will tell them about my disappointment, for all that matters.

I asked the cemetery for a price to have her ashes interred in the grave that has contained her husbandís remains for 55 years. The cemetery quoted a price, I agreed to that price, and then the cemetery raised the price by $106! If you know me, you realize that the above is not how to deal with Keith Falkner. I assure you it was never the way to deal with Helen Falkner. Falkners do not like to be conned or cheated.

I told the cemetery I would make other arrangements, and this saga is the story of those arrangements.

My parents and I lived in several places in London and St. Thomas Ontario between 1946 and 1951. Other places in southern Ontario held significance for the Falkners, such as the birthplaces of family members, the homes of friends, important landmarks, favourite picnic areas, and the like. I determined to deposit small quantities of my motherís ashes at some of those sites. On the morning of June 9 2007 I loaded my V-Strom with personal gear and Helenís remains and set out from Toronto Ontario.

My first family landmark was a home in the north of London Ontario, a major city about 120 miles or 200 kilometers west of Toronto. In the 1940s this part of London was called Bellwood Park, a cute name to encourage people to buy the schlock houses and like them. The subdivision was a sea of mud, from which a host of cheap post-war houses had sprung. Veterans, such as Dr. K. C. Falkner and family bought these homes and worked hard and for the most part flourished. Most of the cheaply built homes have survived, including the one owned by the Falkners. I quietly deposited some ashes in a hedge on the property, mounted my motorcycle, and rode away.

If, like me, you are a science fiction addict, please think of the book written by Pohl and Kornbluth, ďGladiator at LawĒ, then reread the description of Belle Reve, nicknamed Belly Rave. I think of that subdivision whenever I think of Bellwood Park.

It is proper to seek permission when putting ashes on private property, but I elected for stealth, and I never had a problem with it. The alternative was to spend a lot of time, bother people, bore them with a dull tale they did not need, and ask permission which might be denied.

At the second house in London, a large home in downtown London, I saw that a tree directly in front of the house, between the sidewalk and the curb, had evidently perished. The tree had been cut off at about 18 feet, and the remaining trunk and lower branches had been chainsawed, leaving a coarse outline of a sculpture. On a table nearby was a clay rendition of the finished sculpture. A craftsman was diligently carving the outline of a womanís face, about twelve feet up. He described her as Mother Nature. She was not young, and her face bore the lines of toil and concern. That figures. If you visit London Ontario between now and 2020, look in front of 326 Queenís Avenue, and you may see the finished sculpture. You can think of it as a modern day totem pole, as a passer-by called it. I left some ashes where Lily-of-the-Valley grew in profusion while Helen lived there; the area is littered with trash and clutter now. Either way, the ashes fit right in.

I rode to the school where I had attended grades 5, 6, and 7. It is now a French immersion school. Well, ugh; I think of French immersion as a year of indoctrination in rudeness and intolerance, but maybe that is just me. Near that school is a historical bridge, Blackfriars Bridge, which dates from about 1880. I wasnít there at the time, but the builders of that bridge hooked up eight oxen to a wagon containing forty tons of gravel and led them across the bridge to prove its strength. I like that! Blackfriars Bridge still carries vehicles, but was closed to traffic on June 9, to accommodate a charitable and athletic event. I tossed some ashes from each side of the bridge, and tried to photograph the falling ashes, together with my shadow on the north side and a family of ducks on the south.

My next stop was the large cemetery where Helenís parents and my father are interred. This is the business that was offered $390 plus tax to inter my motherís ashes and wanted an extra C-note, so wound up with dick! I arrived just after the office had closed, so I had to find the Falkner grave on my own. I can tell you, there are a lot of surnames looking back at you in that immense ďmarble orchardĒ, so I was pleased to find a stone saying FALKNER less than a minute after starting my search. It was the wrong stone. Perhaps the late Jennie and Bill Falkner were distant relatives of mine; I certainly had never heard of them. I kept looking.

I decided to search for 40 minutes, no longer. I parked the bike and walked and walked. ďCome on!Ē I thought, trying to dredge from my memory at least one of the names adjacent to my familyís grave site. After all, I had visited the very spot only 44 years before. No luck. Time expired, and I decided to ride away with my task undone.

The chance-after-the-last-chance proved successful! While riding very near the exit of the cemetery, I saw the surname BUSBY on a very wide stone. ďBINGO!Ē I thought, remembering that Doctor Busby had been a very very fat man in the 1940s, almost as wide as his enormous tombstone, and I faintly recalled having seen that stone during an interment. Within ten feet of BUSBY, I found the stone I sought, with the FALKNER almost obscured by leaves. I deposited a sample of ashes on my fatherís grave, and another on my motherís fatherís grave. I left no ashes on my motherís motherís grave, because she had been bad tempered and discourteous to me and to people I loved, and had tried earnestly during my youth to persuade me that she had been a very well-behaved and tractable child. Not her! Her despised nickname was ďSpitfireĒ!

I rode south to the small town of Lambeth, the birthplace of my motherís beloved father, the man after whom my V-Strom is named. Having no idea where in Lambeth to find his roots, I turned at random and soon found myself on a fashionable street with upscale homes. This street had all modern homes, so it had clearly not existed during my grandfatherís lifetime. The street had a classy name, Lambeth Walk. I deposited some ashes in an ornamental garden in the middle of the street, and rode south to St. Thomas, the seat of Elgin County and the place where Jumbo the elephant died after charging a freight train and coming a distinct second in the resulting collision.

I readily found the house where I had lived with my parents in the 1940s. It looked seedy and unloved, and I left some ashes near a neglected flowerpot. I recalled that I had accidentally lost a tiny but valuable gold dental appliance in the lawn there ... and by damn my father actually found it!

I also deposited ashes where some close friends had lived. This house is well maintained, and appears to be a happy place with children and swings and jungle gyms and pretty flowers.

I rode south on Highway 4 to its end at Port Stanley, on Lake Erie. I realized that my V-Strom had carried me to the west end of Lake Superior, the north end of Lake Michigan, both ends of Lake Huron, a few places on Lake Ontario, and finally the shore of Lake Erie, thereby reaching all the Great Lakes. I left ashes on the very edge of the lake, and photographed them before the waves totally dispersed them.

From Port Stanley, I rode east on secondary highways to Port Burwell. I stopped at the lighthouse and took a picture of my bike and the lighthouse. From a plaque near the lighthouse, I learned that the Port Burwell lighthouse is a very distinguished edifice indeed, and it has been well restored. I left some ashes near the lighthouse, even though neither the town nor the lighthouse held any significance for me, nor for my mother so far as I knew.

Continuing east, I reached Simcoe, the home of one of my motherís aunts in the 1950s. I left some ashes in the garden in front of that house, then headed back for Toronto.

The ride was 329 miles, and about two thirds of the ashes made the entire trip. I think my mother would have approved of my quest, and I look forward to whatever adventures lie ahead for Helenís ashes and for me.

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HLF's Last Rides - part 2

Helenís Last Rides - Part Two

June 10 2007 was a short ride for Helenís ashes. Ashes were deposited at the home where her parents lived from 1950 until their deaths in 1956 and 1963. More were left at her home from 1955 to 1964, her larger home from 1964 to 1986, and the small home in which she recently died. All these places were in North Toronto, less than a mile from her final home, where my wife and I are temporarily staying until we return to Florida.

I carried the samples of ashes in pill bottles, those little orange plastic vials with either easy-open tops or the tricky lids that only children can open. Recently I bought some medicine in a child-proof container, and I was having a tough time trying to wrestle it open, while I stood outside the drug store. A passer-by saw my struggle, and I asked, ďWhere is a child when you really need one?Ē She nodded sagely and walked past without offering to help.

Not long ago, I talked with my son about my usual practice with pill bottles during his youth. I would fight the bottle a while, and eventually ask one of the kids to open it for me. ďSure thing, DadĒ, and the bottle was open immediately.

I asked my adult son if he had, as a child, swallowed my suggestion that a child-proof container is made so that only a child can open it. He sagely replied, ďWell, Dad, you were handing out a lot of nonsense at that time, so I reckon we swallowed plenty of itĒ

The bulk of the ashes stayed at my motherís final home, where my wife and I are currently staying while we wrap up her affairs. Soon I will take some of Helenís ashes much farther afield, and I look forward to the voyage.

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Helenís Last Rides - Part Three

Helenís Last Rides - Part Three

On June 14, 2007, I took four small vials of Helenís cremated remains, and rode my V-Strom to the Niagara Peninsula. My first stop was Ridley College, the boarding school in St. Catharines Ontario at which I attended grades 8 through 13. I chatted with some folks there, watched a crew begin to erect an enormous tent for a ceremony, and deposited some ashes near a red rose bush. Helenís maiden name was Lancaster, and the Lancaster faction wore red roses in the War of the Roses. I believe Helenís father would have been amused if he could have imagined my action. He was a thoughtful fellow, and I am glad I named my motorcycle after him. (The motorcycle also has the nickname Colorado, because its VIN ends 1876, the year Colorado became the Centennial State.)

I rode to Brockís monument in Queenston Heights. This is the location of the battle that ended the American invasion of Canada in the War of 1812. For several years I have wanted to visit the inside of this monument, but I have always arrived at the wrong time, for example in the evening or on a Sunday. This visit, at 1:00 PM on a sunny Thursday, was no exception, because the monument is closed for extensive renovation, and may not reopen this year. My quest will wait. I left some of Helenís remains in a small garden near the monument.

I crossed the international border, entering Lewiston, New York. I rode south to Niagara Falls NY and had lunch. I picked up some necessary forms at the United States Post Office, did some shopping, and headed for Goat Island, the American island that separates the Canadian Horseshoe Falls from the American Falls. Terrapin Point juts out immediately adjacent to the edge of the Canadian Falls, so I went to the brink and tossed a handful of ashes into the water immediately above the Horseshoe Falls. Some ashes blew back onto Goat Island, but most of the sample fell into the water and plunged over the precipice. Maybe, years from now, some of them will reach Lake Ontario. Then I rode to the north end of Goat Island. A large picnic area is there, and one day in 1975, Helen and her son and grandsons enjoyed a picnic there. After the meal, we played baseball. My son Scott pitched to me, and I hit the ball, and my mother caught the ball in her glove. I thought at the time that such an event would not likely happen again, and indeed it did not. I deposited some ashes on that picnic area, and rode across the border to Niagara Falls Ontario Canada.

I rode a circuitous route through Niagara Falls, Welland, Thorold, and St. Catharines to the railway station in west St. Catharines, where I found that the station had scarcely changed since I last used it in 1959. The washroom in particular seemed quaint, but clean. I chatted with a lady who was walking a boxer dog, and mentioned that I wanted to ride to Toronto without using the Queen Elizabeth Way, the expressway that has linked St. Catharines and Toronto since 1939. She suggested a route that turned out to be scenic, twisty, and very much to my liking. I reached Mississauga without using a major highway, and enjoyed a leisurely ride past expensive homes, industrial sites, and quaint shopping areas. For several miles I followed a small French automobile, a Citroen 2CV (Deux Chevaux, or two horses, although it has a bit more power then that!) Then I went north to highway 5, and followed that to Toronto. I took familiar routes back to the place where I am staying. The ride was almost 250 miles, about half of it ground that I have often traveled with my mother.

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Coming soon - farther east

Soon I will be departing Toronto for the eastern provinces of Canada. Some of my mother's ashes will go with me, and will be left in places that had some significance for her, or perhaps for me.

I hope that some day a descendant of mine will take my ashes and spread them in places that mattered to me or to that descendant.

I guess you can call me irreverent, and that would be accurate.

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Hey Keith, i've been wondering where you were as i have not seen a post from you in awhile. Glad to see all is well although i'm sorry to hear about the death of your mother. It's something we all face in one way or another and it is the way it's meant to be. Sounds like you have been dealing with it as best as could be done and saying goodbye in a realistic manner. I've wished aloud for the same ending myself. Ashes to ashes, dust to dust. Ride safe Keith...J.R.
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Hello

We have many things in common. I enjoyed your open letter and hope the writing of it also helps you to bring to fruit the events you tell of. I am also from the London area and my parents rode the night train often from London to Pt. Stanley and back to the dances at the Stork Club in the post war years.

Thanks for the time you spent here, and thank Helen for the time she invested in you.

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You're a good son, Keith. I raise my glass to Helen, and to all my loved ones who have passed before me . . . I shall see you all again . . .

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Hey Keith,

Sounds like a great final adventure! I hope my kids can be so deligent in spreading me around!

If there are any of her ashes left and if the area around Mt. Albert (Lake Simcoe area) I would be happy to distribute some from my little ultralight.

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Keith, thanks for sharing this very personal essay. You are a good son.

You rode through a lot of my own personal history, as I've lived in St. Thomas and London, and worked in Port Stanley as a teenager.

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